Why women have affairs?
Talk about a loaded matter that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Funny thing, affairs have been going on ever since millennium. Affairs can be fraught with evils, cause despair, and other problems. Plus you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness matter, money, age dissimilarity, religious upbringing, guilt, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I should classify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, discteet married dating.
Why do married people have affairs? There are as many answers as there are man seeking woman for affair. I suppose mainly though it is only the human condition, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Physically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us escape the world for a brief period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody can switch the craving on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another individual, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos people has erected against married dating. For lots of individuals the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but the public as well. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your spouse or anyone else? You will need to minimize the hazard you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest cluster, colossal actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they are happy in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to think about. Your assets are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live as a family besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them completing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair at times solves the trouble while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Avoidance, sadly this is a common groung I fear. One or the other, generally the guy is sexually neglecting his female for a tones of reasons. As a male I actually am thankful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “hot wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is disappeared, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Could be we have just grown apart, our relulas concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is conflicting of what you want. Maybe I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for economic gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
Tags: affairs, Dating, dating married people, extramarital affairs, Marriage, married dating, seeking an affair